True Happiness Is In The Choices That You Make

Learn to regain control over your own happiness in 3 simple steps.

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Studies show that happiness is a choice

BUT the real secret to happiness is understanding the power of your choices.

We live in a time where immediate gratification is the norm rather than the exception.  AND the idea that if you can afford the monthly payments then you’re entitled to have the object you desire. 

We get so caught up in the daily grind that we lose track of what brings us true happiness.

After a while it seems like you have absolutely no say in your life.  Like you’ve lost all control.

AND because we live in a culture that favors busyness, we tend to linger in this misinformed state of mind.

Sure you surf the Internet hoping to find the magic solution to this sinking problem, but you never seem to find the right answer. 

{Truth be told, during your search, a pop up advertisement caught your eye when it promised to deliver a healthy dose of happiness in 24-hours, guaranteed.  And so the cycle continues.}

Until today…

Today you realize that you do have the ultimate say in how you choose to live your life. 

  • If you don’t like your body, you can choose to skip the mocha at Starbucks.
  • If you hate your job, you can learn a new trade and change careers.
  • If you despise maintaining your gigantic home, you can sell it.
  • If you’re sick of barking at your kids to be careful in your Lexus, you can downgrade vehicles.
  • If you’re tired of feeling lonely, you can put down your phone and reach for your partner.

You see, every single choice that you make directly affects your level of happiness.  It turns out that you do have COMPLETE control of your life and always will. 


Bottom line, just because you can, doesn’t mean that you should.

Meaning, just because:

  • Your child could sign up for 6 activities, doesn’t mean that she should. 
  • You could afford a bunch of meaningless stuff, doesn’t mean that you should.
  • You do have the time to sign up for yet another committee, that you don’t care about, doesn’t mean that you should.

When I think of happiness I think of all the choices that I make to live a life that is aligned with my top values. 

And you can easily do the same thing. 

First, list out your top 5 values.  For example, (1) Fun, (2) Love, (3) Family, (4) Freedom, (5) Simplicity

Now that you have your values in mind, go through the three steps in order to craft your ideal lifestyle. 

3 Steps To A Happier Life

Step #1:  Slow down.  In order to figure out what’s working and what’s not, you need to taken inventory of your life.  Sort out things that support your values and nix things that take you away from what matters most.  For example, if you value family time yet you’re constantly signing up for community committees, it’s time to pass the torch and scoot your butt on home.

Step #2:  Simplify.  Take the pile of stuff that is not allowing you to enjoy your life and start trimming the excess.  If you’re sick of spending your weekends cleaning a 3,500 square foot home, have a serious talk with your partner about downsizing.

Step #3:  Savor.  Now that you have examined your life and realigned your priorities, you can take in the special moments with your family and friends. 

Because that’s all that really matters.

Sure happiness is a choice, but the true secret to finding happiness is respecting the power behind the choices that you make.

Jessica is the author of Back 2 Love and How to Start a Mental Health Private Practice.  She blogs regularly on her website:  Follow her on Twitter where she tweets about Top Relationship Tips.